For some of us speaking is as natural as breathing. We speak without thinking. We don't give a thought to the words we use. We pour out thousands of words- our thoughts, our opinions our judgments and our beliefs. And many of us are oblivious of the effect on our listeners.
Words have tremendous power. The words we speak give out an energy message and that energy is received by the people who are listening. Everything you say has an effect on the world. It's going to either have a positive effect or a negative effect. We are always creating with our words. People react to our words and it comes back intensified. For example if I was to say something negative or judgmental to a friend of mine, they will judge me back with more intensity.
The words that I use can cause pain or anger. And if I use words of kindness, people tend to take that with warmth and friendship. Whether our words are positive or negative, it's going to multiply back at you. The persons reaction is going to be even stronger based on the emotion you attach to it. Because the power of our words have a ripple effect. Words can move us to action.
Think about some of the famous people in history. Patrick Henry - He is famous for the line, "Give me liberty or give me death." and Martin Luther King who stated: " I have a dream." JFK who said "Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country". These words changed history.
The words you use every day can make the way you think or how you feel change literally in an instant. Your words actually create a biochemical effect in your body. Think about that. I'm going to say some words and I'd like you to listen and feel them: Darkness, Dreary, Turmoil, Sadness, Impossible, Disappointing, Ugly . How do you feel right now? Probably not very good even if I was to say them in an uplifting way, they have a negative effect on our body. But if I say, Light, Love Hope, Joy, Sunshine, Peace, Laughter, Giggling, Success, Victory.............. Can you feel the difference that these words have in your body?
As human beings we don't think in words or phrases. We think in pictures. the words we use every day are raw materials of our thoughts. The belief system that each one of us started with when we were children and the words that we were taught.
If I were to say,:
Money doesn’t grow on ____
What do you think I’m made of ___
Money doesn’t buy ____
Money is the root of ____
Save your money for a rainy ___
The rich get richer and the poor get ___
So you are probably filling in the blanks, right? You have a mental image of what that looks like. You have a belief system that started from when you were a child. Maybe when you asked for something you were told, " What do you think I'm made of ______?" And you just filled in Money.
Those belief systems could be holding you back . What if you could change one simple word and you could change your life? I want to talk about this because, I've seen this happen when I talk to clients. There is a big difference about how successful people talk and how people who are not very sure of where they are going to, talk. The words you use today are going to create a belief for your business.
If you are reading this now, it's because you care about your business, and you are willing to work as hard on yourself as you do in your business. You are a person who is ready to achieve what your incredible opportunity has to offer .
The words you use matter. One simple word will change a belief from can't to can. Those words create incredible personal satisfaction. Words that you speak have the power to change your destiny.
What words have been spoken to you that have gotten you where you are today? When I was growing up I was told to be happy with what I had and to not expect more. That not "expect more" part really stuck with me so as I was making my dreams in college, I didn't have the drive to get to the top of my game, even though I had the talent. I chose to adopt that belief and let go of my dreams.
Where are you in your business today? You are where you are because of what you spoke yesterday. We just are beginning a new year and what is wonderful about that is knowing we can change where we are and where are going ourselves. So if you want to change your direction, change your words and move yourself up to your next goal. Where you are today is about what you have been speaking. What kind of destiny in your life and in your business are you creating?
There is an ancient proverb. "Words kill or words give life. They are either poison or they are fruit." Or how about another favorite "Your mouth can spit venom, or it can mend a broken soul." You choose. The words you are speaking; are they giving life or are they killing? Are you spitting venom or mending broken souls?
What kind of words are you using every day? Are you getting up in the morning and saying: I don't know who I'm going to talk to today or I don't know how I'm going to do this.
Or instead; "This is a Great day, I'm so excited to meet new people and make a difference.: What kind of things are you talking about? Are they negative and unhappy or full of energy and passion?
I've had to overcome complaining. As a young Mom I hung around with a lot of complainers. And I have worked very hard to change that. Because those words we spoke about our children have more power than I realized. Because the things you focus on become magnified, you are feeding it. It reminds me of my garden. My weeds tend to double faster than the plants. The negative gets multiplied.
We get to be a springboard to people's dreams or we become a jackhammer. Just visualize that. With a spring board you jump and you catapult into the air where a jack hammer is loud and it destroys what it comes in contact with. Are your words a springboard to your dreams or are they jack hammers helping to bring others down?
You can change circumstances by the words you speak. You will possess the things you confess. Challenge each and everyone to start speaking possibilities. Not just the way you think. Sometimes you have to change the words you say to believe what you think. They are the seeds of your thoughts. You can change the atmosphere of where you are by the words you speak.
The other day I was in a check out line and the customer in front of me was rude and obnoxious to the checker complaining about the prices and arguing about a sale item and I could tell that she was very close to saying something mean back to him and she started speaking back to him unkindly. After the customer left and it was my turn, she looked at me and said, "He was a real jerk." I could have allowed her words to affect my day, but instead said, " Well everyone isn't having a great day like me. And I know yours is about to get better, too." And she relaxed and smiled.
You can go into a situation and just by speaking positive words can change that situation. We are what we say. And it is time to start taking responsibility and change the words we speak. Dare to speak encouragement, words of light and uplifting things about your business and your team. Ask yourself what limits you have put on yourself. How many times a day have you said, I can't, I can't, I can't. Every time I think about saying that I hear my mother. " Can't means you won't."
We have to recognize this. So here are some simple steps to create positive power with your words.
1. Stop complaining - Out loud and to yourself. When you hear it say something positive.
2. Start listening to how successful people talk. Follow big thinkers vocabulary.
3. Use positive cheerful phrases and words, like Magnificent, Amazing, Glorious! Write down and create scripts that you have agreed with in the past and then create a new list of positive scripts of where you want to be.
4. Start paying attention to what you are listening to. Your ears are not garbage cans. News, and most TV- They are there to alarm you. They will get rooted in your heart and come out of your mouth.
5. Tape yourself when you are making phone calls. Ask someone to hold you accountable.
6. Describe other people with powerful words, Amazing, Wonderful. Use upbeat favorable . positive language to help other people. Be positive on Social Media Be in the business of building castles and not graves .
Talk about things as how they can be and your future will come into alignment with those words. What if it doesn't work? Well what if it does? Nothing happens by chance.
You have the power in your tongue to change your destiny. Use it wisely.